Monday, August 13, 2018

Please keep my wife in your Thoughts & Prayers

Recently my wife suffered a stroke in her mid-thirties after having surgery for a broken ankle she suffered on her way to work. Now over the years I have shared very little about my wife and the medical challenges she has been facing. Already me living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy brings its own challenges and difficulties but outside of that it seems my wife and I have been through more than most couples could handle.

 You see after years of being married when we decided to start our family we were faced with miscarriages and very devastatingly lost two daughters to stillbirth, it was then when my wife was diagnosed with a rare blood clotting disorder called Antiphospholipid antibody syndrome (APS). Unfortunately, just a few weeks ago my wife suffered a fall on her way to work and broke her left ankle, it was so bad that she required surgery. Sadly the condition APS reared its ugly head as it caused a stroke resulting in her right side becoming very weak - leaving her unable to walk and unable to work. At this time we remain focused on her healing and recovery, but with me being on disability and my wife being the sole full-time worker this has left us in a very tough spot financially. So I have launched a GoFundMe campaign which you can visit by (Clicking Here) to help ease her mind so she can focus on her recovery.

Thankfully, after a two week stay in hospital she was able to return home though she still faces a long road to recovery. Sadly, she is still unable to walk or return to work. We are currently having to rent a transport chair to help her get around our small apartment - since the wheelchair we originally had simply wouldn’t fit into our bathroom or through our buildings front entry. This is has really shown us that it might be time for a move to an accessible building, thankfully her mom is here to help and we are doing our best to adapt to the current situation. This whole thing has also shown me how quickly life can change. I always thought with me having Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy that I'd be the one dealing with having to use a wheelchair long before she would ever have to. After all she has always acted as my caregiver stepping in to do tasks that Muscular Dystrophy makes too hard for me. But now it’s my turn to take care of her and she knows I am doing my best. Though I am trying to hide the fact that all the extra work I am doing is leaving me weak and exhausted, but I am dedicated to keep pushing through - while trying to get as much sleep as I can just to have the energy to make it through another day. Plus drinking a lot of coffee.
We are hopeful this will only be a short term thing as we are both looking forward to when she is walking again and able to return to work - so we can put this is all behind us. At this time we are truly thankful for all the support we are receiving from our family and friends as well as her coworkers and the readers of My Becker’s Story. As this makes it a lot easier to get through this allowing us both to breathe a little bit easier while we focus on her full recovery.

Those looking to support our GoFundMe campaign please visit:

Thank you, Brad

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Friday, May 18, 2018

Welcome to the My Becker's Story blog!

Welcome to the My Becker's Story blog!

Join me as I share my Becker Muscular Dystrophy Story.

My name is Brad Miller and I was diagnosed with Becker Muscular Dystrophy at the age of 10, a condition which limits my ability to walk and gets progressively worse over time. I created the My Becker's Story blog in 2010 to share my story and to help raise awareness about Muscular Dystrophy. Along with sharing my story I also raise awareness about accessibility and the issues people with disabilities face. When it comes to the My Becker's Story blog even though the focus is on Becker's Muscular Dystrophy I also want to encourage those affected by other conditions even other forms of Muscular Dystrophy to join in as well. I truly believe when we join "Together" we can make a difference in our communities and raise even more awareness about Muscular Dystrophy and the issues people with disabilities face. The main focus behind the My Becker’s Story blog is to tell my story in hopes that it will somehow help those living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy, as well as their families and friends.

What people are saying about the My Becker's Story blog:

"Hi there, I also suffer from BMD. Just read the blog and the first half is like reading my personal history!!"

"I ran across your spot today, you sure have a lot on here I will have to check in a lot. I also have BMD and everything you say resonates deeply."

"I am also in my mid-30's with Becker's from the UK so thought i'd join and say hello! Struggling with all the same things as mentioned in the blog!"

"I am new to this group. Just want to say it is nice to meet people who understand."

 "I love your blog and it is nice to know there are others out there facing the same challenges as I do each and every day."

If you would like to read my personal story about growing up with Becker Muscular Dystrophy please click on the image below.

When it comes to living with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy I intend to take what I have been through in my life and some how use it to help those going through a similar situation. When it comes down to it the main idea behind My Becker’s Story is to help those like me who are living with Muscular Dystrophy, by creating a place for us to connect. I truly believe that we are in this "Together". And I believe that with every one’s help that together we can help raise awareness about Muscular Dystrophy around the world.

Laps for Muscular Dystrophy

Along with sharing my story I launched Laps for Muscular Dystrophy as a unique way to help raise awareness & funds. Growing up, I always hoped of one day becoming a race driver myself but due to the physical limitations of Muscular Dystrophy was unable to pursue this dream. My main objective with Laps 4 MD is to help make a difference and have a positive impact on the lives of others affected by Muscular Dystrophy. Laps 4 MD is a network of professional racers across Canada & the USA donating $1 from every lap they lead benefiting Muscular Dystrophy Canada and the Muscular Dystrophy Association in the USA. To learn more visit

Thank you for visiting My Becker's Story!

Thursday, April 26, 2018

The challenges of being a man with a physical disability

When it comes to slowly losing your muscle strength at times it can mean losing the ability to do many things others take for granted. Since I have lost a lot of strength in my arms over the years this has resulted in an inability to carry anything that is too heavy. Things many people can carry with ease such as a jug of milk or even a case of water. This means in many situations my wife ends up being the one carrying the heavy load. This is one of my biggest frustrations whenever we go grocery shopping as this can result in me looking like a jerk. Especially to those who are simple observers as they look at me and wonder why this man is making his wife carry everything that is heavy. As many in society expect the man to do all the heavy lifting. But I do understand that these people have no real clue about my physical limitations, as they see a man who may look perfectly fine in their eyes. Believe me at times I get the stares from total strangers looking me up and down as if they are judging me thinking there's no way this guy has a disability. This is just a part of living with a hidden disability and it has been something I have been dealing with since I was eighteen years old - so it's really nothing new. The truth is some people have a stereotypical view of what someone with a disability should look like and most days I don't fit that mold. So, when they see me not doing what is expected of a man especially when it comes to doing all the heavy lifting they might make the mistake of judging me and thinking I am lazy. I really can't blame them and sure it shouldn't bother me as to what people think as I already know that they simply don't understand.

 Still I do feel bad as I am unable to physically step up and help my wife and I hate the fact that she end's up doing all the heavy lifting. I am so thankful that she understands but to the untrained eye many people view me as a regular guy when they know nothing about my story. It's the same thing when total strangers give me dirty looks when they see me parking in an accessible parking space. Even other people with disabilities at times can be very ignorant to the fact that not every disability is visible. But they are not there when my leg gives out causing me fall or when I trip over a simple pebble on the ground, it's the main reason why I tend to walk with my head down looking for anything that may trip me up. At times it makes me look anti-social since I am always looking down. The facts are only those close to us at times can truly understand our physical limitations, but all too often total strangers make snap judgments simply because they don't know any better. They see the international sign for accessibility being someone in a wheelchair and automatically think that is what everyone with a disability looks like. The facts are ignorant people will always judge others and sometimes we make the mistake of caring what they think. Currently I am slowly becoming okay with other's seeing my wife carrying the things I find too heavy. If they look at me as a lesser man or think I am not a stand-up guy because of this, I don't let it bother me as I can't expect everyone to understand my situation. After all I can admit I may look like a tough guy who can carry my own weight but little do they know looks can be deceiving. In the end, it is truly unfortunate that in this day and age some people still have a stereotypical view of people with physical disabilities. 

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Wednesday, April 25, 2018

How losing the ability to climb stairs has affected my life

When it comes to living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy at some point in our progression losing the ability to climb stairs eventually becomes a reality. In recent years, my inability to climb stairs has been having a major impact on my life. Now when it comes to where I live if there isn’t an elevator in the building I have no other choice but to live on the first floor. Even though I may look perfectly fine and still have the ability to walk my leg muscles are so weak that climbing stairs is now near impossible. If I could afford to I would move into a more modern building with an elevator so I can live on whatever floor I choose. A place where my wife wouldn't have to go down two flights of stairs to access the laundry room. I actually miss the days of being able to help out my wife by doing a bit of laundry while she is at work. Even with my issues I still do my best to help out around the home after all sitting around all day doing nothing isn't really that good for your health.

  Challenges visiting family & friend's

 When it comes to visiting family, or friends my inability to climb stairs has created a few problems. Just recently someone we know bought a townhouse with the only bathroom being located on the second floor. The last time we were there I needed to use the bathroom so I went up the stairs on my rear end step by step, then going back down in the same way. After this I could barely walk as my leg’s felt like rubber as they kept wanting to give out on me. In the moment, I was really frustrated knowing when we visit next time I would not be able to use their bathroom. So, at this point in my progression with Muscular Dystrophy it is now affecting my ability to get together with friend’s and family. I really wish when it came to hanging out with friends that they could simply come to my place. Only problem is that my current apartment is simply to small and better suit to someone who is single. And as my condition worsens it feels as if my apartment is getting smaller by the day -  especially in our bathroom if you make the wrong move your knee will smash into the counter. I even
 have the bumps and bruises to prove it. But due to the high cost of rent in my community a move currently isn’t even an option.

 The Biggest Wake-up Call of my Life

 My worst experience came a few years ago, when my wife and I attended a Josh Groban concert. At the time, I was still in denial concerning the progression of my Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy and that night I paid for it dearly. That night my troubles all began when I went to stand up after three hours of sitting in a very small and tight space. It is truly unfortunate that at almost every concert venue the seating they offer is usually very tight leaving you with little to no room to stretch out your legs. I guess not being able to stretch my legs out resulted in my legs became so weak that I just couldn't get up. In that moment my legs had lost all their feeling and strength. This ended up creating an awkward situation as I had never experienced this before. It was as if my legs weren’t even there anymore. Thankfully after a few minutes I was able to crawl up the steps on my hands and knee’s and use the railing at the top to stand back up. It was more than a little embarrassing. This whole experience acted as a wake-up call. This is when I also realized that accessible seating would have made a huge difference. It was in that moment I knew that stairs where quickly becoming my worst enemy. Fast forward to today and I avoid stairs at any cost as a simple fall while using them could end very badly. In many cases in my situation a broken leg would more than likely end with me never being able to walk again. Now, as I continue to lose strength in my muscles I know overtime other challenges will come my way and I hope I am ready to face them. As of today, the reality is that stairs are now my worst enemy.

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Tuesday, April 24, 2018

My dream of becoming a professional race car driver

When it comes to living with Muscular Dystrophy a genetic muscle disorder that causes my muscle to weaken, the reality is that it has kept me from being able to pursue one of my biggest dreams. That dream was to become a professional race car driver. You see when I was a child and even in my teens I grew up around Motorsports. From a very young age I always dreamed about becoming a race car driver. I still remember as a child watching the Daytona 500 with my dad when they first started broadcasting the races on TV in the early 80's. This was long before my diagnosis of Becker's Muscular Dystrophy. As I grew older and after my diagnosis it became apparent to me that racing is a very physically demanding sport to participate in. I learned this early after taking my brothers go kart (pictured above) for a quick test drive. As it resulted in leaving my right leg feeling very weak. At the time, my dad put together a race team for my brother and I joined them on many occasions travelling to race tracks across the province of Ontario. Eventually the racing stopped but my love for Motorsports remained very strong. Growing up one of my favorite racing series was the Trans Am Series and the Cart Series when they ran strictly road course and street circuit races.

A look at my very first Go Kart Race

In my teens, I remember a time when I joined my churches youth group on a trip to an amusement park in New York known as Darien Lake. While walking through the park to my surprise mixed in with the roller coasters was a small go kart track. So, my friend's and I took advantage of this opportunity to have a little race. After a short wait the gates opened and everyone waiting rushed to the go karts at the front of the pack. Being unable to run this resulted in me ending up with the very last go kart on the starting grid. This meant I was starting dead last - so it was time to focus. At one point, during the race ahead of me I noticed my friend struggling to pass two other drivers. Next thing I know I am right on his bumper. All of a sudden, a gap opened up and like Ayrton Senna I went for it and was actually able to pass my friend and the other two drivers on the same lap. At that point, I was catching the top three but the next thing I knew our time on track was up. If only we had just a few more laps left I might have been up front challenging for the lead. Now during the race, I was so focused on driving that I didn't realize how hard I was pushing the gas pedal. Unfortunately, this left my right leg feeling very weak that for a short time I could barely walk. It was a quick reminder that my dream of becoming a race driver would never become a reality. Thankfully like most things in my life I just accepted it and move on. This meant my dream of becoming a professional race driver would now be fulfilled by playing racing games on my PS3. It is truly unfortunate that Muscular Dystrophy is the one thing that kept me from being able to pursue this dream, as my arms would quickly tire from all the shifting and foot work that is involved with racing. That is why it bothers me when I hear some people don't believe that racing is a physically demanding sport, as there are millions of race fans like me who would have to disagree.

The founding of Laps 4 MD

As I child I was very fortunate to grow up around many different forms of racing. I really enjoyed attending many races with my dad at our local race track many still refer to as Mosport. (Now known as Canadian Tire Motorsport Park.) This is where my love for racing grew along with my frustration that I would never be able to pursue my dream of becoming a professional race driver. This led to me always trying to do my best to find ways that I could be involved in racing, even if it was in a small way. Eventually this did lead to me coming up with the idea of Laps 4 MD where race drivers donate $1 from every lap they lead benefiting those affected by Muscular Dystrophy. Fast forward to 2018 and now we have over 30 racers donating $1 from every lap they lead benefiting Muscular Dystrophy Canada & the Muscular Dystrophy Association in the USA. So now I can accept the fact that my dream of becoming a race car driver never came true. It simply feels great to be have the support of some of North America's up and coming racers. As you can see even though I was unable to pursue my dream I was able to come up with a new way to be involved in Motorsports through the founding of Laps for Muscular Dystrophy.

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