As a teen growing up all to often as a result of living with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy and not being able to keep up physically I was bullied pretty badly. Sure nothing compared to what today's kid's have to go through but it made life very difficult at time's especially in high school. I truly despised being bullied so after summer break when I returned for my second year of high school I returned with a shaved head and a new attitude. I finally reached a point when I was sick and tired of people messing with me, at this time is when I myself started acting like a tough guy simply to survive. I only did this in an effort to ensure that people would just start leaving me alone.
Thankfully once I graduated from high school I left the tough guy attitude behind. I simply didn't need to portray that image anymore. But still these days I run into other men who walk around like they are some type of tough guy. These are the types who like to stare other men down. I guess what they are doing is playing a mental game of chicken in a effort to see if you back down an look away. As if they enjoy trying to intimidate other men. Maybe this makes them feel like a tough guy. These are the types who also seek out confrontation maybe to prove to them selves that they are really a man. Living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy I find these types of guys to be pathetic. I actually go out of my way now to avoid these guys, in a effort to not give them the pleasure of feeling like they can intimidate me by staring me down. Especially when it might come from someone who knows I have a physical disability and lack the ability to defend myself. Does it really make them a tough guy if they want to intimidate someone like me? I think it shows that they are really pretty weak. It also makes no sense to me as to why someone feels the need to always try and be a tough guy. This maybe due to the fact that growing up with a disability I learned pretty quickly that being a man has nothing to do with your muscles or strength. Instead what makes a tough guy is one willing to step up to defend the weak and make a difference in the lives of others. Sure in some sports men do have to play the intimidation game but in most situations in life there's really no use for it - unless you are a police officer or a UFC fighter. At this point in life I am just sick of always having to deal with other men who like to play the role of the tough guy, at times I do wish I could be the one to give them a good attitude adjustment but that would just end up with me in the hospital. I truly hope in time that these types eventually grow up. Until then my attitude towards them is - Ok, whatever Mr. Tough Guy!
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