Thursday, July 10, 2014

Welcome to the My Becker's Story blog!

Welcome to the My Becker's Story blog!

Join me as I share my Becker Muscular Dystrophy Story.

My name is Brad Miller I am a freelance journalist living with Becker Muscular Dystrophy, a condition which limits my ability to walk and gets progressively worse over time. I created the My Becker's Story blog in 2010 to share my story and to help raise awareness about Muscular Dystrophy. Along with sharing my story I also raise awareness about accessibility and the issues people with disabilities face. When it comes to the My Becker's Story blog even though the focus is on Becker's Muscular Dystrophy I also want to encourage those affected by other conditions even other forms of Muscular Dystrophy to join in as well. I truly believe when we join "Together" we can make a difference in our communities and raise even more awareness about Muscular Dystrophy and the issues people with disabilities face. The main focus behind the My Becker’s Story blog is to tell my story in hopes that it will somehow help those living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy, as well as their families and friends.

What people are saying about the My Becker's Story blog:

"Hi there, I also suffer from BMD. Just read the blog and the first half is like reading my personal history!!"

"I ran across your spot today, you sure have a lot on here I will have to check in a lot. I also have BMD and everything you say resonates deeply."

"I am also in my mid-30's with Becker's from the UK so thought i'd join and say hello! Struggling with all the same things as mentioned in the blog!"

"I am new to this group. Just want to say it is nice to meet people who understand."

 "I love your blog and it is nice to know there are others out there facing the same challenges as I do each and every day."

If you would like to read my personal story about growing up with Becker Muscular Dystrophy please click on the image below.

When it comes to living with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy I intend to take what I have been through in my life and some how use it to help those going through a similar situation. When it comes down to it the main idea behind My Becker’s Story is to help those like me who are living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy, by creating a place for us to connect. I truly believe that we are in this "Together". And I believe that with every one’s help that together we can help raise awareness about Muscular Dystrophy around the world.

The Walk for Muscular Dystrophy

Team Brad at the 2013 Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy

 Along with sharing my story I also aim to make a difference in my community. Since 2010 my friends and family have joined "Team Brad" in support of my efforts to raise funds that benefit people like me who are living with Muscular Dystrophy. The Durham Region Walk supports Muscular Dystrophy Canada’s mission to enhance the lives of those affected by neuromuscular disorders. To learn more please (Click Here)

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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Maintaining friendships while living with Muscular Dystrophy

When it comes to living with Muscular Dystrophy like I have said before it definitely comes with its own unique challenges. One place you may not think it might cause challenges is with keeping and making new friends. Over the years you quickly learn that some friends come and go, that’s just a part of life. Living with a disability you sometimes wonder if people don’t want to be a part of your life simply because you have certain physical limitations. At time's you tend to start thinking that some people exclude you simply because they don’t want to have to deal with your issues. As if accommodating for your specific needs is too much of a hassle. I am sure others have experienced times in their lives when friends have excluded them from certain activities and it left them wondering why. Especially when it's activities they might have no trouble partaking in.
Sometimes it seems as if some friends eventually become annoyed of having to think of your needs every time they plan an activity. These are usually the types of friends who stop calling you preferring to hang out with people who are not so limited by a physical disability. Now I do understand when people don’t invite me to go skiing or rock climbing but after a while it seems as if they simply start excluding you from everything – even the things you are still fully capable of doing. You can't help but wonder if people view you as too much of a burden. Thankfully at this point in my life I realize not all friends are created equally. Truth is only a few friends will actually accept you for who you are and be there in your times of need. As we grow older we realize that friends like these can be hard to find.
When I was a child I learned my first valuable lesson about friendship. Being diagnosed with Becker Muscular Dystrophy at a young age meant in certain situations I was able to be exempt from participating in gym class. This resulted in me on many occasions sitting on the side lines while my class mates took part in gym class activities. At one point another student had broken his leg so he joined me on the sidelines as well. During gym class would we hang out and talk, it seemed as if we were becoming friends. Eventually his leg had healed and he went back to participate in gym class leaving me behind - from this point on he no longer spoke to me. You see when I was in elementary school for some reason the other students always singled me out, many making fun of the way I walked. Well once his leg was healed he simply joined in with the others kids who were relentless at picking on me and called me names. It was at this moment when I realized that some people simply pretend to be your friends. It’s like one second there your friend next thing you know there joining the crowd do whatever it takes to fit in, even if that means making fun of you. Unfortunately some friends will ditch you the second someone they believe to be better comes along. Thankfully I learned this at a young age so I was never really surprised when some of my friends would let me down.
It’s sad but true in life some friends will let you down, they may even talk behind your back or even exclude you from certain parts of their lives for reasons you will never understand. I guess in time we all learn that this is just a part of life. One thing I believe is that friends are the people who make an effort to be a part of our lives. The truth is some people don’t value their friends as much as they should. They are the type to believe that some friends are there only for the times when you have no one else to hang out with. These are the same type of people who think it's ok to take advantage of their friends. Eventually in life we find out which friends of ours fall into this category. Thankfully over time these types of friendships come to an end and if they don’t there comes a time when we simply need to cut them off.  It’s like they say we don’t lose friends we just find out who the real ones are. The one thing I would have to add to that saying is that we should never give up as in life it is always possible to make new friends. You see even though I have lost a few friends over the years I have made some new one's along the way as well. At this point in my life I am truly thankful for everyone who still makes an effort to be a part of my life - especially those who don't exclude me because of my physical limitations.

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Family & friends need to understand the issues we face,
My personal story growing up with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy,
Growing up with Muscular Dystrophy: The High School years,
Growing up and being Bullied in School &
My Childhood with Muscular Dystrophy: School & Gym Class

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Monday, July 7, 2014

Dealing with falls and using the Gowers Maneuver

Growing up with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy definitely has its challenges. Throughout the years I have actually tried to ignore the fact that I even had Muscular Dystrophy. Something many of us do when diagnosed with any condition. The truth is you can only ignore it for so long. You see from time and time little things will happen that quickly reminds us of our condition. It's in these time's when most of us might feel alone in our situations. Most of my reminders come in public when I am either walking in a store or just simply stepping off a curb when one of my leg gives out causing me to fall. It's like one moment your walking without a worry in the world and the next thing you know your on the ground. Thankfully when this happens it usually doesn’t result in an injury, but I am sure you can understand it does leave me feeling embarrassed and at times pretty frustrated.

I am sure those living with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy or other conditions who are no longer walking and are now using wheelchairs can remember the days when they too faced similar situations. To be honest and I am sure many others will agree you never really get used to falling. After years of suffering many slips and falls I have yet to reach a point in my life where I get up off the ground with a big smile on my face. It is truly hard to act as if nothing really happened especially when it happens in front of family or in my situation as a child when I was trying to impress a girl. But I will save that one for another blog post. Now when it comes to falls at times it can put us at risk. The other day I was walking in a parking lot when one of my legs gave out, I ended up on the ground behind some parked cars. Thankfully no one was backing up out of a spot or I might not be here to share this blog post with you. Thankfully in this situation I was able to use the chrome bumper of a pick up truck as a support to help me get back up. You see when those of us the BMD fall we need something to push off of to get up off the ground. Eventually as our muscles weaken it becomes harder to push off of our legs to get back up. That means if we fall
in an open area we may have to crawl to the closest chair or table so we can use it to push off of to help us get back up. Many of us in our younger years were able to use something known within the Muscular Dystrophy community as the Gower's Maneuver - but eventually it does become much harder for us to do.

When it comes to living with Becker Muscular Dystrophy there are those out there who believe our lives are relatively easy. Sure in the early years we might be better off but as we age we do slowly lose the ability to things most people take for granted. When it comes to the issue of dealing with falls related to living with BMD eventually we do reach a point when the only way to avoid falls is to consider using mobility aids such as canes and wheelchairs.

Related Posts:
My personal story growing up with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy,
Life after being diagnosed with Becker's Muscular Dystrophy,
Living with Muscular Dystrophy and dealing with "Weak Days",
Living with BMD: Dealing with falls & size of calf muscles &
When stairs become your worst enemy

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Saturday, July 5, 2014

Shelby Mills Racing supports Laps for Muscular Dystrophy

Shelby Mills Racing
The My Becker's Story blog is happy to announce that we have our very first supporter of the Laps for Muscular Dystrophy Campaign. I would like to introduce everyone to Shelby Mills the very first Canadian race car driver to join us in raising funds and awareness of Muscular Dystrophy. So what is the "Laps for Muscular Dystrophy" Campaign? It's a unique opportunity for Canadian race car drivers or teams to join together with Muscular Dystrophy Canada to help make a difference in the lives of over 50,000 Canadians affected by neuromuscular disorders. Drivers & Teams donate $1 per lap they lead to help support the efforts of Muscular Dystrophy Canada.

Shelby Mills is 22 years old and her home track is Brighton Speedway located in Brighton Ontario, Canada. She started racing when she was 17 years old in the stinger division and moved up into the comp4 class in 2012. Shelby's rookie year of comp4 was very challenging and she learned a lot, finishing in 12th place out of over 30 drivers. In her second year of comp4 she became team mates with Justin Ramsay and had a much better year. Shelby won 2 features and various heat races. This time finishing 6th among over 30 drivers. She was also the recipient of the Most Gentle Person Award and the Triple Crown series race winner. Although her 2014 season has started off a little rough she has steadily been improving every week, and has been able to win a couple heat races and finish in the top 5 most nights. Shelby was able to claim the fastest lap in her division and is  currently in second place in the points standings and hopes to stay there. As we know racing is a team effort and she says; "I am able to do what I do every Saturday night because I have a great crew of Justin Ramsay, Tyler French and Matt French." She is also very thankful to have very supportive and generous sponsors which includes: ABC Taxi, Dibbits Excavating, Empey Tire, RC Autobody Repair, Stix and Stones Billiards, KD Transmission, Hotchs Auto Parts, and The Vinyl Solution. Through the 2014 race season Shelby will be donating $1 per lap led to Muscular Dystrophy Canada.
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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

The 2014 Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy

Team Brad at the 2014 Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy
When it comes to living with Muscular Dystrophy I have been on a mission to raise awareness within my community. Over the weekend I had a great opportunity to raise awareness by joined my local Walk for Muscular Dystrophy. This year I had the honor of being the Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy Ambassador which was truly amazing. On the day of the event the weather was perfect and included clear skies and summer like conditions. It was Team Brad's fifth year joining together in support of the Walk for Muscular Dystrophy and it meant so much to me to be surround by my family and friends on such a beautiful day. I really have to thank all my family and friends who were able to join Team Brad this year. To those who were able to donate to Team Brad's fundraising efforts this year thank you. Because of you Team Brad was able to raise over $1400 in support of Muscular Dystrophy Canada. In total the 2014 Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy raised just over $41,000 which is amazing!
Meeting Ricky Tsang
The best thing about joining the Walk for Muscular Dystrophy is the opportunity to meet others including a few friends I meet through Facebook. I had the chance to meet Ricky Tsang a young man living with Duchenne who also spoke at this years event. He did and amazing job and I really enjoyed listening to his speech. He is a really nice guy and it was great to be able to meet his parents as well. I also met a good friend Jocelyn who I met on Facebook after last years event. As you can see when you join an event like the Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy you have a great opportunity to meet and connect with others which is something I truly enjoy.    
Team Brad wins the 2014 Team Spirit Award

The Durham Region Walk for Muscular Dystrophy turned out to be an amazing day spent together with family and friends. This year we were lucky enough to win this years Team Spirit Award. I really have to thank everyone on Team Brad for their efforts which helped us win this award. Great job! I can't wait till we do it all over again next year. Again thank you to everyone on Team Brad for making it another year to remember!

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