Sunday, August 12, 2018

Please keep my wife in your Thoughts & Prayers

Recently my wife suffered a stroke in her mid-thirties after having surgery for a broken ankle she suffered on her way to work. Now over the years I have shared very little about my wife and the medical challenges she has been facing. Already me living with Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy brings its own challenges and difficulties but outside of that it seems my wife and I have been through more than most couples could handle.

You see after years of being married when we decided to start our family we were faced with miscarriages and very devastatingly lost two daughters to stillbirth, it was then when my wife was diagnosed with a rare blood clotting disorder called Antiphospholipid antibody syndrome (APS). Unfortunately, just a few weeks ago my wife suffered a fall on her way to work and broke her left ankle, it was so bad that she required surgery. Sadly the condition APS reared its ugly head as it caused a stroke resulting in her right side becoming very weak - leaving her unable to walk and unable to work.At this time we remain focused on her healing and recovery, but with me being on disability and my wife being the sole full-time worker this has left us in a very tough spot financially but still we must focus on her recovery.

Thankfully, after a two week stay in hospital she was able to return home though she still faces a long road to recovery. Sadly, she is still unable to walk or return to work. We are currently having to rent a transport chair to help her get around our small apartment - since the wheelchair we originally had simply wouldn’t fit into our bathroom or through our buildings front entry. This is has really shown us that it might be time for a move to an accessible building, thankfully her mom is here to help and we are doing our best to adapt to the current situation. This whole thing has also shown me how quickly life can change. I always thought with me having Becker’s Muscular Dystrophy that I'd be the one dealing with having to use a wheelchair long before she would ever have to. After all she has always acted as my caregiver stepping in to do tasks that Muscular Dystrophy makes too hard for me. But now it’s my turn to take care of her and she knows I am doing my best. Though I am trying to hide the fact that all the extra work I am doing is leaving me weak and exhausted, but I am dedicated to keep pushing through - while trying to get as much sleep as I can just to have the energy to make it through another day.
We are hopeful this will only be a short term thing as we are both looking forward to when she is walking again and able to return to work - so we can put this is all behind us. At this time we are truly thankful for all the support we are receiving from our family and friends as well as her coworkers and the readers of My Becker’s Story. As this makes it a lot easier to get through this allowing us both to breathe a little bit easier while we focus on her full recovery.

1 comment:

  1. I know this was posted a while ago, but I had a stroke back on January 25th just after my 21st birthday so I understand what she’s going through, and I’m on ODSP as well and know how rough that can be as well. Is you’re wife making progress at this point? I am so sorry for what you’re both dealing with, and I know how difficult, and long this road can be so keep your heads up ❤️ I’ve been following this blog for a while now, you both must have an understanding for each other at this point. My fiancĂ© has had to deal with a lot from me over the years and I’m so thankful to have someone in my life who understands, helps me get through hard times and supports me. It makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to recovery from a traumatic event. I really hope your wife is doing better, and I’ll be sending positive vibes ❤️